Q:
I am trying to understand why my girlfriend broke up with me. We seemed to be getting along just fine until her best friend lent her a book about dating. Then she announced that after reading it she decided she can do better than me. When I asked her to explain, she answered, “You’re just not that into me!” I’ve heard about a book with that title. Could that actually be responsible for her sudden change of heart?
A:
The book is He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys, and, yes, it is the likely culprit behind your breakup. The book (which is now a movie) has insidiously poisoned some women’s minds, just like the nineties best-seller The Rules. It’s basically a series of complaints from women about their boyfriends, and obnoxious answers from the authors recommending dumping these offending beaus. There’s no way to guarantee that this kind of silly rejection won’t happen again, but you could have some fun with your next date by accusing her of “not being into you” if she doesn’t give you the loving attention you require. Of course, you’ll risk having her say, “You’re right, I’m not!”
Victoria Zdrok's combination of beauty and intelligence has earned her the label as "sexpert" in many media outlets. She writes a monthly column on love, sex, and dating for Penthouse Magazine entitled "Ask Dr. Z," and a column on sexuality and the law for Penthouse Forum. She is a frequent contributor to several publications and has her own SIRIUS Satellite Radio specialty show, The Sex Connection, on Howard 101. You can find out more about Dr. Z at www.sexysexpert.com
