Q:
My fiance loves sex and public displays of affection, but whenever we visit her parents, or when they visit us, she becomes a total prude. She doesn’t want me to kiss her or hold her hand, and she acts standoffish toward me. Worse yet, she never wants to have sex when her parents stay over, even though our bedroom is far from the room where they sleep. How can I get her to act more like herself in their presence?
A:
Sigmund Freud once said that it’s not just two people in bed, it’s six: you, your lover, your mother, your father, you lover’s mother, and your lover’s father. In their physical presence, she regresses to an innocent and obedient little girl, which is the way they may regard her-or an image she thinks they still have of her. It’s similar to people whose parents were not publicly affectionate. She probably fears they’ll look down on her if she shows her sexual side in their presence, and that apprehension may even affect her desire for sex when they are around. Indulge her. In time, she may overcome these issues, especially after you’re married-when sex is “permitted.” And hey, if she doesn’t get over it, that’ll just be another reason to avoid seeing your in-laws too often.
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