Wife Watching

Q:
My wife and I love kinky sex. We make love in every imaginable position, and we enjoy talking dirty, too. One night she said she’d love to have two of me at the same time. Ever since she said that, I always get hot thinking about it. I want to watch her have sex with another guy, then join in on the fun. How would we go about instigating something like this? It seems weird going up to a guy in a bar and saying, “Do you want to fuck my wife?”

A:
Asking a random guy at a random bar about joining you and your wife in the bedroom is a bad idea. The quickest way to find a man to be with your wife is to go to a swing club that allows single men. Once you chat up a decent prospect, run him by your wife, then get him a drink and ask him if he would like to join you in one of the private rooms or come home with you. Make sure you are very direct and inviting, as many men are apprehensive about fucking other men’s wives in front of them. Put on your biggest, friendliest smile and say affirmatively, “I would love to see you fuck my wife.” Once he wholeheartedly agrees, clarify the rules: “I would like to watch for a while, then join in.” Make sure you specify exactly how far you are willing to go, because many men who go to “everything goes” swing clubs are bisexual.

If you feel awkward about going to a swing club, or happen to be shy, the easiest way to find threesome candidates is by joining AdultFriendFinder.com, which has an impressive array of eager participants. But be warned, until it’s actually happening, you don’t really know if watching your wife get fucked is the turn-on you’ve been fantasizing about. Sometimes, it’s best to let fantasies remain fantasies.

Victoria Zdrok's combination of beauty and intelligence has earned her the label as "sexpert" in many media outlets. She writes a monthly column on love, sex, and dating for Penthouse Magazine entitled "Ask Dr. Z," and a column on sexuality and the law for Penthouse Forum. She is a frequent contributor to several publications and has her own SIRIUS Satellite Radio specialty show, The Sex Connection, on Howard 101. You can find out more about Dr. Z at www.sexysexpert.com