Unconditional Surrender

Spice up otherwise vanilla sex with a walk on the wild side, courtesy of the Penthouse Variations Collection.
By Victoria Zdrok, Ph.D.

Has sex with your partner gotten too predictable? Are you experiencing a lull in your love life? Bondage and discipline, submission and domination, mild sadomasochism, and orgasm denial all have a way of reviving lost lust. Her total surrender of control to her lover can evoke her deepest—and sometimes subconscious—feelings and desires, enhancing her excitement and orgasmic response, and the male mastery that’s demonstrated by teasing her to a monstrous orgasm satisfies the need for macho dominance that many men repress in today’s post-feminist society. I recommend putting your inhibitions aside and opening your mind to new experiences you need to look no further than the Penthouse Variations Collection to begin your journey. (Before you start, agree on a “safe” word, one that neither of you is likely to use as part of your sexual play, in the event that someone wants to stop.)

Start small by restraining her hands with the Captivity Cuffs and/or her legs with the Ankle Cuffs, either keeping on the soft faux-fur sheaths or removing them so she can feel the cool metal against her skin. The cuffs come with two keys, but if you misplace them in the heat of the moment, there’s also a quick-release trigger for fast escapes.

If you want a restraint that only you can liberate her from, go for the Leather Entrapment Kit, which contains wrist and neck cuffs with heavy D-rings and three padlocks with keys. Once you have her restrained, use the Lust Lash flogger on her breasts, back, behind…and any other place your kinkiness takes you. The Lust Lash has rubber strands that will tease and tickle her but won’t go beyond sexy snaps no matter how hard you swing it. The wooden handle and wrist strap keep you in full control by making sure you don’t lose your grip.

After (or while) you warm her up with a flogging, try out the Nipple Clamps. They have adjustable pressure keys for varying degrees of sensation, and the black rubber tips can be taken off to increase the intensity. The connecting metal chain can be used to remind her who’s holding the reins. Of course, you can always let her take charge; there’s nothing wrong with indulging your submissive self. Just remember: The object of dominant/submissive play is for the dominant to bring the submissive to new heights of sexual pleasure while gratifying his own lusts to the fullest. Anything goes between two consenting adults who are having fun.