Q:
I recently got married to a girl I dated for a couple of years. We get along great-except I like to have intercourse several times a day, and she says it’s too much. What annoys is that she accommodated my sexual needs much more before I married her. Since the wedding, she seems to find a lot more excuses to turn me down. How can I get it through to her that this wasn’t what I bargained for?
A:
Your annoyance is understandable, and fairly common. Women are often overly accommodating to men prior to marriage-which can be somewhat deceitful and dishonest. Females often worry that may loose their man if they don’t put out whenever he wants. But there is more at issue here. You sexual zeal is extraordinary-few men crave intercourse several times a day with the woman they’ve been with for years. Are you sure your insistence on getting laid that frequently is not the result of sexual compulsion(as opposed to true desire)? Do you care enough for her to be willing to accommodate her needs? And what’s wrong with occasional self-love while your partner is recharging her batteries? Sex is great, but there is such a thing as too much. Maybe you need to hit the gym to burn off some of that pent-up energy, or check out some porn. If all else fails, get some testosterone tests to learn if there are physiological reasons for your unusual sexual needs, and seek some counseling to see if there are ways for you and your wife to adjust your respective desires and find a happy medium.
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