Q:
I had a very weird sexual encounter a couple of months ago and it’s been bothering me ever since. I hooked up with this really hot girl during spring break in Daytona and the sex was pretty good except for one thing: I could not find her clitoris. I know it’s supposed to be where her inner lips come together on top of her pussy. Usually, it’s like a little ball or protrusion. But I honestly don’t think this girl had a clitoris! I still went down on her and she seemed to enjoy it when I ate her vaginal hole. And she had an orgasm when I pounded her doggie style, or maybe she faked it. So could it be that she didn’t have a clitoris, or that it was located somewhere else?
A:
Have you been watching the classic porn movie Deep Throat, where Linda Lovelace’s “deep” clitoris gives her orgasms whenever she gives a blowjob? If so, trust me—it’s fiction! Seriously, though, there are rare cases when the skin covering the clitoris is fused, thus not offering much access to the love button, and in some cases, hormonal or medical issues cause the clitoris to atrophy. But the chances of your lover having one of those conditions is very unlikely—unless she was the victim of clitoridectomy (the religious practice of clitoral circumcision). Clitorises vary widely in size, and most likely hers was so small that you simply missed it. From your description it appears that she had a G-spot orgasm when you did her from behind, as chances of her clitoris being located inside her vagina are nil (although some believe that vaginal orgasms can be triggered by indirect internal stimulation of the clitoral network). Stop looking for clitorises in unlikely places and focus on her responses to your touch. If you are uncertain about whether a woman likes a certain type of stimulation, just ask her whether it feels good and where she prefers to be touched.
Victoria Zdrok's combination of beauty and intelligence has earned her the label as "sexpert" in many media outlets. She writes a monthly column on love, sex, and dating for Penthouse Magazine entitled "Ask Dr. Z," and a column on sexuality and the law for Penthouse Forum. She is a frequent contributor to several publications and has her own SIRIUS Satellite Radio specialty show, The Sex Connection, on Howard 101. You can find out more about Dr. Z at www.sexysexpert.com
