Q:
I consider myself to be a romantic guy. I like spoiling my woman with fancy dinners, flowers, and generally treating her like a queen. However, I am not very verbal, and women I have dated always complained that I’m too quiet, especially before and after sex. I just don’t know what I’m supposed to say. Don’t actions speak louder than words? — L.M., Connecticut
A:
Verbal reinforcement is particularly important for women. Saying the right words may have a greater impact on her libido than rose petals and poetry — we all want reassurance that men want to be with us for our bodies and minds. So when you’re basking in the afterglow of lovemaking, try something along the lines of, ‘You make me really happy,’ or, ‘Being with you makes me forget about all the stress in life.’ Emphasizing how she impacts your life makes her feel special, which will amp her desire to reciprocate the love in a very sexy way.
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