Fit for a King

When making love, how you make her feel is much more important than your size. This position guide will help both of you get in the groove.

Judging by your letters to me, men are continually preoccupied with their penises-their size, shape, and rigidity. As I have stressed before, most women are quite happy with an average penis, and many will be satisfied with a smaller one, as long as it is attached to an attentive and caring lover. Many women prefer shallow penetration to deep thrusts because the most sensitive area of a vagina is located near its entrance. However, while size does not matter much, the fit does, and some partners simply match better than others.

BIG PENIS (LARGER THAN SEVEN INCHES WHEN ERECT)
If you’re huge, your best bet is side lying sex. Try a position called the pretzel. Have her lie on her back as you lie next to her on your side with one of your legs between hers. She should throw her top leg over your hip and extend the other. Once you’re inside her, from your side, roll on top of her and back, thrusting with each roll. This works well for bigger penises because you will not have a full range of thrusting motion.

A woman-on-top position, or cowgirl, is also great for larger penises because she can control the depth of penetration. Plus, she does all the work while you lie back and enjoy!

AVERAGE TO BIG PENIS (FIVE TO SEVEN INCHES ERECT)
In the reverse cowgirl, she faces your feet and lowers herself on top of you. This allows her to control how deeply you penetrate her while giving you a great view of her ass. This isn’t the best position for clitoral stimulation, so put your hands to work.

The good ol’ missionary position is usually pleasurable for average-size parties, but if she complains that you are too big, or if she needs clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, you can also perform a coital-alignment technique, whereby you move upward along her body so that the base of your penis stimulates her clitoris. Your penetration will be shallow as you will be “riding higher in the saddle” and rocking rather than thrusting.

AVERAGE TO SMALL PENIS (THREE TO FIVE INCHES ERECT)
Try a modified missionary with her legs raised all the way and her hips propped up with a pillow. Tilting her pelvis up allows you to thrust deeper and makes her G spot and clitoris more accessible for stimulation. To achieve this, have her lie on her back, then raise her legs up and rest them against your chest, or slide a pillow under her buttocks and hook her knees over your shoulders.

To make getting in this position easier, invest in a foam wedge from Liberator.com, or use a yoga wedge. You can achieve deep penetration this way, and if she crosses her ankles, it’ll tighten her vaginal canal, enhancing your pleasure.

SMALL PENIS (LESS THAN THREE INCHES ERECT)
Doggie-style is best for maximizing her pleasure. Aim to hit her frontal vaginal wall to stimulate her G spot. She can help you vary the angle of penetration and friction by arching her back, leaning forward, or squeezing her thighs together.

The downward-doggie variation involves her lying face down with her legs open. You lie facedown on top of her, propping yourself up with your arms for a greater range of motion. This position allows for lots of penetration and friction for both of you, and she can stimulate her clitoris against the bed.

If you’re really small, you’re a prime candidate for anal intercourse, and she is much more likely to agree to deep-throat you-yes, being small does have its advantages!

SLIM PENIS
If your penis is very thin, you may not feel sufficient stimulation, particularly with women who have given birth vaginally. To tighten the fit, start having sex in the missionary position, then raise one of her legs and move it to the side, which will make her tighter. If she crosses her ankles while you’re inside her, that will also make her tighter.

Or lie on your back and have her sit on you backward so that her legs are stretched forward and crossed over your legs. You can manipulate her motion by grabbing her hips while she uses her hands to support herself. You also should try thrusting in a circular motion to make sure you’re hitting all the right spots inside her.

CURVED PENIS
While many men are upset or embarrassed by a curve in their penis, a curved penis can actually be more pleasurable to a woman than a straight one would be. The curved penis can stimulate her G spot, which is located in the front wall of the vagina. If your penis curves up, you’re able to stimulate her G spot in a missionary position without elevating her hips. If your curve is very dramatic, or if she does not enjoy G-spot stimulation, try raising your buttocks for a straighter penetration angle.

If you have a downward curve to your penis, have her face away from you in doggie-style or reverse cowgirl position. Similarly, if your penis bends to the side, try side-lying positions until you find the angle that works for both of you.