What’s your take on the whole “friends with benefits” idea?
Ha! You’re asking me? My take on it is that it can be fantastic, provided both parties are aware of the rules. I think a better way to put it would be “people with benefits,” because, frankly, I don’t really want to fuck my friends. Bowling then sex or coffee then sex is pretty much just dating, as far as I’m concerned. When a friendship gets intimate, I have found that things get a little sticky and difficult to navigate. For me, that arrangement can be fun, but rarely long-lasting.
I decided long ago that I am simply a free spirit and that my indiscretions are my own business and need no explanation or titles. A simpler way to go about all of this is to maintain one’s need to remain single and make that known up front. Anything you do with or without a friend from that point on is fair and honest. To quote the talented Mr. Trent Reznor, “This isn’t meant to last/ This is for right now.” If you’re not a Catholic or a pigeon, multiple partners should be an easy lifestyle choice—provided there is no lying or misleading involved.