Q:
What do you do when you’re in a relationship, but feel you’re more a friend to that person than you are his/her other half? I don’t feel as if we’re lovers anymore, but we’re married and have a two-year-old together. A month ago I asked him for a divorce, but a week later we had sort of an intervention from a family member and things got better for two or three weeks. Then the emptiness started kicking in again.
A:
Understand that my voice on this matter is entirely what I would do and is not a suggestion. I do not know the inner dynamics of your relationship, sex life, and joint-parenting disciplines, and I cannot advise you spec i fically. For me, however, when I have found past relationships evolving into friendships, I got out. If the friendship is strong enough, it can last, yet sometimes it doesn’t. I am a firm believer in this. Sounds to me like you need some serious one-on-one counseling before making a decision. Ultimately, I would rather chase the fire than endure the cold.
I am not a licensed therapist, guru, or magic relationship mender. This is sex and love advice from a guy who has seen both failure and success in the relationship department. I am a little jaded, a little disillusioned, a little sarcastic, yet very honest. Answers may be sincere, absurd, comical, or sometimes flat-out wrong. You'll have to consider the source, I suppose.
