Q:
Is there a tactful way for a spouse to suggest bringing another person into the bedroom?
A:
For men, not really. But who says you have to be tactful? I would just ask the question at a relaxed time. “Honey? Would you ever want to bring someone home with us? You know … just for fun? I’ve always wanted to try that.” Just easy, simple, playful. I can promise you that you will immediately know if it’s an issue worth pursuing.
I’ve had a lot of experience with this, and the best way to go about it is to let the woman suggest or try to arrange a three-way. Just lie back and let her have the power. Otherwise, you could find yourself sleeping on the couch. That isn’t true for all women, of course, but then again it’s probably true for anyone asking for advice on this subject. If your girl is open to three-ways, you’ll know it. If you do get someone to come home with you, make sure you pay more attention to your girlfriend or wife than you do to the new girl. Lord knows that dynamic can really fuck things up.
I am not a licensed therapist, guru, or magic relationship mender. This is sex and love advice from a guy who has seen both failure and success in the relationship department. I am a little jaded, a little disillusioned, a little sarcastic, yet very honest. Answers may be sincere, absurd, comical, or sometimes flat-out wrong. You'll have to consider the source, I suppose.
