When should a woman tell a guy what she’s looking for in a man? It seems like many guys have no interest in any kind of commitment these days, so I would think the best time would be immediately. (I wonder if I answered my own question.) I have no clue about how to date, but I feel like I’m doing something wrong.
I don’t know if “immediately” is the most advisable move. That could scare off just about anybody. Making such a claim when you hardly know someone can come across as needy and suffocating. Unless of course the discussion is about what you both eventually want in life: kids, commitment, marriage, etc. Personally, I think that dating should be simple and easy and fun, especially at first. There’s no need to add stress and pressure at the onset. Who knows if you even like the guy?
I’d suggest that if the subject of your future comes up, tell your date what you might like to see happen for yourself—in a general way, of course. The problem is that most guys tend to agree with anything before they’ve slept with you. “Marriage? Sure! Kids? Yes!” Just take your time and see where the relationship takes you, but most of all, have fun. Nobody likes to feel as if he’s auditioning for your life partner. Trust me, if “the one” shows up, you’ll know it. No need to aim your laser beams at a man simply because the two of you are having dinner.